Any ideas?
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Binkie Free!
Henry has been going through a lot of transitions lately. For this reason, I was going to wait until after the baby came to try to get him to stop taking the pacifier, which he's been pretty dependant on for naps and bedtime. However, fate happened, and good old Henry made the transition all by himself! Here's how it happened:
2. He kept chewing and bit a little piece off the end.
3. I was worried about choking and cut a straight edge off the end. Henry thought that was a pretty good idea.
4. The next night, he wouldn't go to sleep until I cut the binkie again. I cut a little piece off.
5. Every night for the next week, he asked, "Mommy cut the binkie?" before going to bed. As it got smaller and smaller, he still used it the best he could.
6. Eventually there was nothing left to cut! Mission accomplished. No crying, arguing, or fussing!
He still sleeps with the binkie, but he just holds it in his hands as he drifts off to sleep. It's pretty funny! He also can't sleep without his "blankie," of course. I guess our little boy is really growing out of all of his baby habits. Must be time for another baby around here (5 weeks from Saturday!).
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Always Put the Seat Down
I've been trying to teach Henry a little potty etiquette. Just ask him, and he'll recite this rule: "Always remember to put the seat down, and always flush it." As the only girl in a house of almost 3 boys, these rules are both pretty important to me!
He got the flushing part down immediately. Putting the seat down has been a little more challenging (only because we don't want our toilet seat shattering anytime soon). So the past few weeks, we've been working on putting the seat down SOFTLY. Henry got pretty frustrated with this request at first, until he finally came up with a fairly good solution. You have to watch this clip to see how resourceful he is! I love this kid.
Always Put the Seat Down from Ben and Jenn on Vimeo.
Next step: "Always wash your hands!" (still working on that one)
Sunday, July 27, 2008
A researcher I will be...
I'm enjoying a beautiful summer. Although my Ph.D. program at Harvard Business School has officially "started," I literally have no responsibilities or expectations whatever. When I tell people that, they always ask me, "So, what are you doing, then?" Well, aside from some pretty relaxed hours and plenty of time with the family, I'm doing research. It's usually at this point in the conversation that people get this puzzled look on their face as they try to figure out two things: 1) What, exactly, does a finance guy research? 2) What good will that do? For any of you out there wondering, here are my brief, hopefully non-nerdy, answers. For those of you who could care less (and believe me, I'm not offended by that!), feel free to skip this post and hope for a much more captivating one from Jenn in the near future.
1) Economics is, by nature, more of an art than a science. We try to make it as scientific as possible, of course, but it's difficult to actually use the scientific method directly, since it's often unethical to run experiments on people. You can't, for example, take away all of someone's wealth and watch to see how they react. Animals don't make very good substitues for humans either: you can't give a rat a credit card an observe their purchasing behavior. So, economics research in general, and nearly all research in financial economics, relies on historical data to try to learn things about human behavior. Want to know what someone will do if they lose all of their wealth? Look at times in the past when this has happened and try to make guesses about how that will play out in the future. If you want to learn about purchasing patterns with credit cards, then you go to the credit card companies and ask them for all of their data and try to observe patterns from there.
With that introduction, here is what I do as a financial researcher: First, come up with a question and form a hypothesis. Then, a huge proportion of my time is spent trying to find and piece together data to test this hypothesis. Once the data is gathered, I test the hypothesis, usually using statistical tests of one kind or another. Lastly, I write a paper and try to get it published in an academic journal with the results of the study. Ideally, I would have about two of these projects going on at once, with possibly a few other things on the back burner ready to go in case one of the projects doesn't work out.
I won't get into the specifics of what I'm going to study. Suffice it to say that I'm studying risk management, banking, and other corporate finance topics.
2) It's usually at this point that people are thinking, "Okay, you write a paper, so what? Who reads this stuff?" Admittedly, not very many people. I would say that there are three groups of people who read it: First, other academics read it, and then they go on to teach the up-and-coming MBAs these concepts, who will then take that knowledge into the business world. Second, lots of periodical writers are keeping tabs on the academic world. When something interesting pops up in an academic journal, it often makes it in to the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Time Magazine, etc. Lastly, there are a lot of industry professionals who read this stuff as well. Mostly these are guys who got their Ph.D. and, instead of teaching, work for hedge funds, banks, and other corporations. In that way, the knowledge gets passed directly to the companies that need to know it.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Spending Money
While we're on the subject of spending money, I should give Ben credit for insisting on the GPS purchase. It has saved my bacon at least 300 times already. I cannot imagine a place where we would need it more (Anyone ever heard of putting up street signs? They might be a little bit helpful at all of these 10-way intersections). So yes, that was probably the smartest $130 we ever spent. Definitely smarter than the $100 I get to spend on my first MA driving ticket. I feel I can safely blame the ticket on the GPS, since I never would have dared to drive into the Fenway Park area without it. Or should I blame New Jersey drivers for instilling bad habits in me (yellow light: speed up; red light: hurry!)? I think I saw a total of 3 people ever getting pulled over in our 2 years in New Jersey. Welcome to Massachusetts!
Settling In
The rug! This was probably my most exciting find (T.J. Maxx), which I think really ties the room together nicely. It's also super-soft and SOOOO nice. The night I brought it home, Henry was so elated about having carpet that he couldn't stop dancing and spinning and running around on it.
This is quite the conglomeration, and I'm pretty proud of it. :) The sofa (Ikea) is rich and warm and pretty much the most comfortable seat we've ever owned. It also has dry-cleanable covers! The patterned pillows (Crate and Barrel) are my very favorite part of the room -- they were the first thing I bought, and we picked the color scheme from there. The solid pillows are from Pier 1 and Bed, Bath, & Beyond. We also had to get new lamps (Target) because our other ones were orange and cast a hot-dog-standish light on the room.
Here's where I need your votes. First of all, should I keep the small chair, or try to find a different one? It doesn't quite match the wood in the rest of the room, although I love the shape and size. I'm undecided about it. The end table also kind of doesn't match the rest of the room (we already had this). Should I try darkening the stain? I love both of the new chairs (Pier 1), and they're really comfy for this type of chair.
The next vote: Do you like pillow arrangement #1 (2 pictures above), or pillow arrangement #2 (directly above)? Ben and I disagree on this one, so we need your help! You can answer the polls (on the sidebar) or leave a comment. I need your help!
Here's a shot of the room, just to give you an idea of the spacing. Isn't it peaceful and inviting? I especially like how the TV screen matches the color of the rug. It adds a nice touch (at least I haven't made Ben part with this token of his childhood just yet!).
Still working on . . . organizing the playroom! Is it even worth it to organize a room that will only look nice between 8pm and 6am? You'll notice in this picture Henry's latest obsession with spreading things out and lining them up!
And for your entertainment: the current state of our dining room! Notice there are only 3 boxes left to unpack, which I consider quite the feat.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Outer Banks Trip
Watch the slideshow to get a better idea of the loveliness we enjoyed. Ah, summer!
Officially Here
We are finally back from vacation and actually living in our new house! That's not to say we're settled, by any means. We still have a couple of rooms FULL of boxes, and the unpacking is going pretty slowly. It's amazing to me how long it can take to unload one box. It's just so hard to decide where everything's going to go! We have lots to do before this baby comes, and the due date (7 weeks from Saturday) is a pretty solid reminder of that.
The more settled we get, the more we enjoy our new home. It feels very spacious and serene. At the same time, I feel quite isolated in our little house on the hill. I've only left the house a few times, and each time I've been reminded how "fun" it is to start completely over getting your bearings in a new town. It took 6 months to feel completely comfortable driving in New Jersey, and from my experiences so far in MA, the roads are much more tortuous and unpredictable. This is the part of "new adventures" that I don't love so much!
Here are some pictures of the move:
Ben with President Mathusek on our last day of church.
With the Stephenson family. They were sweet and had us over for dinner on Sunday, the day before we moved. We'll miss these guys!
Goodbye hugs: Henry and his best friend, Evan.
Evan waving good-bye from the car. They came to see us off on Monday before we drove away.
'Bye Evan! We'll miss you (we already do)!
We made it! After a rush of cleaning and errands and the 5-hour drive, we arrived at our new home. Here are Dad I. and Ben starting to unload the truck. I should mention here that we NEVER would have survived this move without Ben's mom and dad. They just put themselves to work and kept busy with all sorts of projects the whole time they were here. They're amazing!
While we were getting ready to unload, Henry kept busy acquainting himself with our fabulous yard and all of our neighbors' toys.
We had time to visit a few iconic sites while Ben's parents were here helping us. Here's Henry at the beautiful Boston temple.
And Ben at the Baker Library on the HBS campus, where he'll be spending lots of time over the next 5 years.
Monday, July 07, 2008
A pair of farewells
List
1. All of our great friends
2. Being part of a branch
3. Proximity to Broadway, museums, and Buttercup Bake Shop
4. Ralph's Pizza
5. Samuel Nelkin park in Wallington
6. Our kitchen appliances, which were new when we moved in two years ago
7. Having all six missionaries over for dinner
8. Our attic (the best, cleanest storage room ever!)
9. Great tasting tap water (believe it or not, Ben loved the tap water in NJ)
10. Carpet (hardwood floors are great, but they are hard on your feet after a long day)
11. Shoprite, especially their Strawberry Oat Cluster cereal and double coupons every day
12. Having a fan in the bathroom
13. The accent (although Jenn and Henry have adopted it, so we'll be taking it with us)
14. Living across the street from a farmer's market
15. Bergen County Library System
16. Being within 20 minutes of 2 Cheesecake Factories and 1 Grand Lux Cafe
17. Cheap(er) gas
Things we do not miss about our life in New Jersey:
1. All of our great enemies
2. Crazy NJ driving
3. Getting yelled at by "customer service," among others
4. Carrying groceries up two flights of stairs
5. Trying to convince Henry to walk faster up two flights of stairs while carrying groceries
6. Street parking
7. Moving the car twice a week for street sweeping
8. 1 hour commute to work
9. Getting honked at the very second the light turns green
10. Train station pick-ups and drop-offs
11. La Guardia, JFK, and Newark Airports (the three most delayed airports in the nation, all in one convenient location)
In Boston, but not in Boston



Sunday, June 29, 2008
Into the Darkness
Monday, June 23, 2008
Goodbye New Jersey
(Jenn) You're right, I should probably be packing right now (we're moving in one week -- ahh!) I just can't help but take a minute to post about our great weekend. There's a lot about New Jersey that we will miss, but most especially the people we have come to love.
On Saturday, we went to a birthday party for my friend Jessica, which turned out to also be a surprise going-away party for us! We have become really close with Henry's two friends, Evan and Aden, and their moms and dads. We are going to miss these friends so much! It's so sad to me that Henry doesn't quite understand that he's not going to live close to his friends anymore. He's so excited to move, but he really doesn't know what it all entails. :( When it comes down to it, however, I'm probably the one that's going to suffer the most from leaving my good mom-friends behind. I love these people!
After the party, we headed home for naps before the other party started. Suzen and Nick, our great church friends who have also been working closely with us in our callings, threw us a big BBQ party. They invited all of our friends from the branch! Many of the young women and their families came, as well as many other good friends we've made. It's amazing how these people really become your family, especially when you live far away from "home." We are so sad to be leaving all of these wonderful people, although we're trying to save our tears for this Sunday, which will be our last week at church.
A bunch of people from church also pooled money for a collective gift for our family which we are THRILLED about: a year's membership to the Boston Children's Museum! They must have really been inspired to understand how much Henry LOVES this museum -- he has talked about it daily since we visited in the spring. In fact, I think he is a bit mistaken and thinks we're actually moving to the Children's Museum (in his mind, Boston IS the Children's Museum). Anyway, we're so excited about a perfect gift!
It was impossible for me to put up pictures of all of the party-goers on this post, so below you'll find a slideshow with several other fun pics. Enjoy!
Belly Update
** the prenatal name for Henry's baby (he's going to go into shock when I deliver a real baby and he doesn't!)
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Weekend Warrior

Henry's Quotes of the Month, by Topic
Letters and Spelling
* After arranging all of the letters of the alphabet on the kitchen table (in the picture left): "I'm spelling 'Use your hands for turning, turning, clapping, up-down.'"
* "P-O-T-S spells Stop Sign" (Looking at a Stop Sign)
* "O-K-Y-W spells Statue of Liberty" (Looking at our Statue of Libery paperweight, which says New York across the bottom)
* "H-L-S spells your shirt" (Speaking of Ben's good old LHS t-shirt)
* "Earl. Earl says squirrel . . . and burl"
Religious Thoughts
* "I'm playing toys with the Lamanites!"
* (While walking around in the bathtub) "I'm walking on the water, like Jesus!"
* (After slipping and falling in the water) "I fell, like Peter!"
Potty Ponderings
* "Does Jesus have potty?"
* "Good night, sleep tight, and don't let the . . . pee pee come!"
Funny Observations
* "No nap! I'm just so much playing to do."
* "That's a-Larry-ous!" (from the Iverson "1, 2, 3, a-Larry" song that I still don't quite understand :)
* "That song is doing hiccups!" (about a song that was skipping on the CD player)
* "Dan lives in a motorcycle."
* "Does Daddy live at the church?" (Why would he think that?)
Phrases we hear regularly
* "I'm on the beach!" (which means he's either not wearing a shirt or not wearing pants)
* "I'm sprinkly!" (He says this every time he gets out of the bath and looks at his wrinkled hands)
* "I'm going standing up like Daddy!" and "I did toots like Daddy!" (He says this pretty much every time he goes potty)
* "Daddy and Henry play cars?" "Mommy and Henry play cars?" "Frankie and Henry play cars?" (He asks this several times a day)
Night Tantrums (Lately he has been waking up screaming in the middle of the night. When we arrive, panicked, at his bedside, this is what he repeatedly, urgently asks for):
* "WANNA PINK LOLLIPOP!!!"
* "FRUIT SNACKS!!!!"
* "I WANNA GO TO A STORE!!!"
* "I NEED A COUGH STRIP!"
* "TRAILER TRUCK!!!"
* "I NEED A SNAKE COOKIE ON A FORK!!!"
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Busted
The damage to my son and our relationship? Infinite.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Wedding Announcement
If you want to send them a gift, I have their mailing address . . . and they are registered at Bed, Bath, and Beyond. Try not to be offended that you didn't get a real announcement -- they are just a wee bit stubborn about not wanting their picture on somebody's fridge for all sorts of strangers to see. Yeah, I don't understand it either. But I'm happy for them!
Friday, June 06, 2008
200 Haves & Have Nots
Blue -- Ben has done it
Red -- Jenn has done it
Purple -- We have both done it
Black -- Neither of us have done it
Here goes:
200 Haves and Have Nots!
1. Touched an iceberg
2. Slept under the stars
3. Been a part of a hockey fight
4. Changed a baby’s diaper
5. Watched a meteor shower
6. Given more than you can afford to charity
7. Swam with wild dolphins
8. Climbed a mountain
9. Held a tarantula
10. Said “I love you” and meant it
11. Bungee jumped
12. Visited Paris
13. Watched a lightning storm at sea
14. Stayed up all night long and watched the sun rise
15. Seen the Northern Lights
16. Gone to a huge sports game (go BoSox!)
17. Walked the stairs to the top of the Statue of Liberty
18. Grown and eaten your own vegetables
19. Looked up at the night sky through a telescope
20. Had an uncontrollable giggling fit at the worst possible moment (in a Temple Sealing Session! It was Ben's fault, probably :)
21. Had a pillow fight
22. Bet on a winning horse
23. Taken a sick day when you’re not ill
24. Built a snow fort
25. Held a lamb
26. Gone skinny dipping
27. Taken an ice cold bath
28. Had a meaningful conversation with a beggar
29. Seen a total eclipse
30. Ridden a roller coaster
31. Hit a home run
32. Danced like a fool and not cared who was looking
33. Adopted an accent for fun
34. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors
35. Felt very happy about your life, even for just a moment
36. Loved your job 90% of the time
37. Had enough money to be truly satisfied (define "truly"...)
38. Watched wild whales
39. Gone rock climbing
40. Gone on a midnight walk on the beach
41. Gone sky diving
42. Visited Ireland
43. Ever bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant
44. Visited India
45. Bench-pressed your own weight
46. Milked a cow
47. Alphabetized your personal files
48. Ever worn a superhero costume
49. Sung karaoke
50. Lounged around in bed all day
51. Gone scuba diving
52. Kissed in the rain (first kiss for both of us was in the rain...together of course!)
53. Played in the mud
54. Gone to a drive-in theater
55. Done something you should regret, but don’t
56. Visited the Great Wall of China
57. Started a business
58. Taken a martial arts class
59. Been in a movie (as long as you count Sensitive Naked Man)
60. Gone without food for 3 days
61. Made cookies from scratch
62. Won first prize in a costume contest
63. Got flowers for no reason
64. Been in a combat zone
65. Spoken more than one language fluently
66. Gotten into a fight while attempting to defend someone
67. Bounced a check
68. Read - and understood - your credit report
69. Recently bought and played with a favorite childhood toy
70. Found out something significant that your ancestors did
71. Called or written your Congress person
72. Picked up and moved to another city to just start over
73. Walked the Golden Gate Bridge
74. Helped an animal give birth
75. Been fired or laid off from a job
76. Won money
77. Broken a bone
78. Ridden a motorcycle
79. Driven any land vehicle at a speed of greater than 100 mph
80. Hiked to the bottom of the Grand Canyon
81. Slept through an entire flight: takeoff, flight, and landing
82. Taken a canoe trip that lasted more than 2 days
83. Eaten sushi
84. Had your picture in the newspaper
85. Read The Bible cover to cover
86. Changed someone’s mind about something you care deeply about
87. Gotten someone fired for their actions
88. Gone back to school (in 3 weeks, anyway)
89. Changed your name (well, just my last name!)
90. Caught a fly in the air with your bare hands
91. Eaten fried green tomatoes
92. Read The Iliad
93. Taught yourself an art from scratch
94. Killed and prepared an animal for eating
95. Apologized to someone years after inflicting the hurt
96. Communicated with someone without sharing a common spoken language
97. Been elected to public office
98. Thought to yourself that you’re living your dream
99. Had to put someone you love into hospice care
100. Sold your own artwork to someone who didn’t know you
101. Had a booth at a street fair
102. Dyed your hair
103. Been a DJ
104. Rocked a baby to sleep
105. Ever dropped a cat from a high place to see if it really lands on all four
106. Raked your carpet
107. Brought out the best in people
108. Brought out the worst in people
109. Worn a mood ring
110. Ridden a horse
111. Carved an animal from a piece of wood or bar of soap
112. Cooked a dish where four people asked for the recipe
113. Buried a child
114. Gone to a Broadway (or equivalent to your country) play
115. Been inside the pyramids
116. Shot a basketball into a basket
117. Danced at a disco
118. Played in a band
119. Shot a bird (slingshot--yeah!)
120. Gone to an arboretum
121. Tutored someone
122. Ridden a train
123. Brought an old fad back into style
124. Eaten caviar
125. Let a salesman talk you into something you didn’t need
126. Ridden a giraffe or elephant
127. Published a book
128. Pieced a quilt
129. Lived in an historic place
130. Acted in a play or performed on a stage
131. Asked for a raise
132. Made a hole-in-one
133. Gone deep sea fishing
134. Gone roller skating
135. Run a marathon
136. Learned to surf
137. Invented something
138. Flown first class
139. Spent the night in a 5-star luxury suite
140. Flown in a helicopter
141. Visited Africa
142. Sang a solo
143. Gone spelunking
144. Learned how to take a compliment
145. Written a love-story
146. Seen Michelangelo’s David
147. Had your portrait painted
148. Written a fan letter
149. Spent the night in something haunted
150. Owned a St. Bernard or Great Dane
151. Ran away
152. Learned to juggle
153. Been a boss
154. Sat on a jury
155. Lied about your weight
156. Gone on a diet
157. Found an arrowhead or a gold nugget
158. Written a poem
159. Carried your lunch in a lunchbox
160. Gotten food poisoning
161. Gone on a service, humanitarian or religious mission
162. Hiked the Grand Canyon
163. Sat on a park bench and fed the ducks
164. Gone to the opera
165. Gotten a letter from someone famous
166. Worn knickers
167. Ridden in a limousine
168. Attended the Olympics
169. Can hula or waltz
170. Read a half dozen Nancy Drew or Hardy Boys books
171. Been stuck in an elevator
172. Had a revelatory dream
173. Thought you might crash in an airplane
174. Had a song dedicated to you on the radio or at a concert
175. Saved someone’s life
176. Eaten raw whale
177. Know how to tat, smock or do needlepoint
178. Laughed till your side hurt
179. Straddled the equator
180. Taken a photograph of something other than people that is worth framing
181. Gone to a Shakespeare Festival
182. Sent a message in a bottle
183. Spent the night in a hostel
184. Been a cashier
185. Seen Old Faithful geyser erupt
186. Joined a union
187. Donated blood or plasma
188. Built a campfire
189. Kept a blog
190. Had hives
191. Worn custom made shoes or boots
192. Made a PowerPoint presentation
193. Taken a Hunter’s Safety Course
194. Served at a soup kitchen
195. Conquered the Rubik’s cube
196. Know CPR
197. Ridden in or owned a convertible
198. Found a long lost friend
199. Helped solve a crime
200. Responded to a Neighbor Jane Payne newsletter
What are you most surprised at? Good night!
Monday, June 02, 2008
Picture Update
Here's a brief summary of what we've been up to lately, in pictures.
We finally got Henry's "big boy bed" all put together. Ben painted the bed (we got it for free from someone in our branch). The quilt is Henry's baby quilt, made by Grandma Lori. I can take credit for buying the pillows! Looks pretty good, eh?
And here's the big boy himself (he's very happy about the car pillows -- toys and decorations in one!)
Don't be deceived. The not-so-big boy is still VERY dependant on his binkie and blankie. This is the day he made his bed ALL BY HIMSELF.
Meanwhile, between the three of us, we spent pretty much the entire week last week keeping Kimberly-Clark in business.

Henry wearing Ben's new backpack: one of his many great birthday presents. It has a padded laptop sleeve and will help improve Ben's not-so-nerdiness at PhD school.

Yes, he also got the GPS. I told you he would! I must admit it has already saved me once from dying in the middle of Newark.
And here's the birthday boy with his cake. He's finally caught up with me and the other cool 26-ers! We celebrated with a quiet night at home (Ben's request).
And last, but not least, we joined the Minivan Club. Yep, it happened on Saturday night. As if our gas bill wasn't already astronomical enough!Here's Happy Henry with our 2004 Nissan Quest. Pretty snazzy, right?